Words of Wisdom

In life, we have to choose between the jeans and the cookie jar. Liz Hurley chose the jeans and I chose the cookie jar

~ Nigella Lawson....(on women's body image and her own voluptuous body)

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Kristen Stewart's public apology may not be the best way to win back Rob Pattinson

Was watching the rerun of Harry Potter And The Goblet Of Fire last night on TV. This is the movie that introduced Robert Pattinson to me. Playing Cedric Diggory, Harry's love rival. Oh, how fresh-faced he was back then. A new actor not knowing whether he would get a job or not after this one. No paparazzi. No tabloid gossips. A private life.

Rob Pattinson as the fresh-faced Cedric Diggory in Harry Potter.

BAM!! Thanks to Facebook, I was jolted by the hot news of Rob being cheated by the girlfriend that he never declared to the world before. Kristen Stewart whom I actually liked since her first appearance in The Panic Room couldn't have chosen the worst time to bring their relationship public. 

It is sad for any relationship that a woman got photographed making out with another man when the the only steamy photos we've seen of her with her real boyfriend are all from the movies they both are in. It is just too bad that we finally got the confirmation of their romance through the following public apology she issued.

"I'm deeply sorry for the hurt and embarrassment I've caused to those close to me and everyone this has affected.  This momentary indiscretion has jeopardized the most important thing in my life, the person I love and respect the most, Rob. I love him, I love him, I'm so sorry."

Now, every couple has problems. Nobody's perfect. However, I personally think that in this particular case, the public apology is highly unnecessary because she does not owe it to the public.

Why do I say that Kristen does not owe it to the public? True, she made a mistake. But it's not like she is married or has kids. Married people especially those with kids DO owe it to the public because once you're in that legal commitment, you have the responsibility of upholding the family values. It's not fair that the cheating married man has not really been the target of the press hounding.

Another more important reason is because I personally think the public apology statement only serves as "rubbing the salt to the wound". It publicly humiliates Rob instead and will further hurt her chance of winning him back. It's obvious she wants him back but I personally feel she's throwing the ball in his court the incorrect way.

I know a thing or two about going public with personal issues. Thanks to that thing we call "social website". Let's just say, I was irked by what a guy was doing. So, my reaction was to dive deep into "messaging terrorism" on a "social website". He read everything. Everybody in my list read everything. People who didn't know the story behind it left comments. I thought it was the right thing to do to get things off my chest. Then, I posted about "not wanting to hurt the person I care about". What happened after that was, instead of me and him coming to peace with each other, my postings had built up resentment in him towards me instead. I was basically told to minimize contact with him. It got ugly from that point.

Now, looking back, I know how foolish it was. It also painted me as someone with no dignity or self respect, which is exactly the opposite of what I wanted. Certain things are better off settled in private.

The thing about women is, we tend to tell the world about what we feel when we are trapped in that situation. Yes, Kristen did Rob wrong but the incurable romantic in me want them to work things through and get back together.

No. I'm not a Twilight fan.

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